Friends & Family

Gambling not only affects the person who gambles, but friends and family members too.

Find out more about how to deal with your concerns.

This is not an exhaustive list but the more these signs seem to fit the person, the more likely it is they need to review or seek help for their gambling behaviour:

  • Preoccupied with gambling and unable to stop
  • Spending increasing amounts of time playing on Internet gambling sites or visiting external gambling venues with increasing frequency
  • Reliving past gambling experiences, planning the next gambling venture, continually talking about new ways to get money
  • Bragging about gambling, exaggerating wins and minimizing losses
  • Becoming withdrawn, restless or irritable when attempting to reduce or stop gambling.
  • Losing interest in other pastimes and hobbies, refusing invitations to attend social events with friends and colleagues
  • Increasingly spending available free time on gambling activities.
  • Gambling alone more and more, especially for long periods
  • Gambling with increasing amounts of money
  • Gambling to win back money that has been lost
  • Borrowing money for gambling or in order to pay off gambling debts
  • That they are finding that after losing money gambling, they continue to gamble in order to get back those losses (“chasing”)
  • Lying to others in order to conceal the extent of gambling
  • Unpaid bills and debts
  • Unexplained absences
  • Losing work time because of gambling or jeopardizing job by gambling
  • Doing something illegal to get money for gambling
  • Ability to control their gambling is lost, and repeated efforts to reduce or stop gambling are unsuccessful
  • Anger
  • Shame – embarrassed by the gambler
  • Hurt – the gambler may blame all the problems on their partner and blame them for their preoccupation with gambling
  • Fear and worry – not knowing what mood the gambler will be in and uncertainty and worry about finances
  • Loneliness – feels rejected, unloved

You can start this process by:

Acknowledging the problem;

  • Regaining control of finances, budgeting and maintaining or establishing family routines
  • Talking to someone, and accepting support
  • Planning for you and your family’s emotional needs
  • Establishing a “safety net” of supportive family, friends and community support agencies
  • Get counselling
  • Establishing separate bank accounts
  • Assessing your partner’s access to money
  • Knowing your long-term assets and investments
  • Determining your average monthly family income and expenses
  • Listing all valuable possessions accessible to the gambler
  • Knowing what debts you are liable for

Giving support to someone that has a gambling problem

  • Support through treatment and recovery
  • Set boundaries
  • Communicate
  • Control cash

It is illegal for anyone under the age of 18 to open an account or to gamble on Betfair. Betfair takes its responsibilities in this regard very seriously. Verification policies, payment restrictions, information for parents and details of filtering solutions are vital to blocking underage access on the site. Click here for more information.

Taking control

Ensure you maintain control of your gambling so that it remains enjoyable

Need a break?

If you want to stop for a while, we can help you with our account blocking service